tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2895957982808823122024-03-13T09:10:23.477-07:00Thinking ActionThere is no use of thinking without action to it..Ishleen Kaurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16888260894315981239noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-289595798280882312.post-69249179788386725462012-05-13T09:10:00.002-07:002017-01-17T07:01:32.182-08:00My Cracked Feet<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Being a professional who belongs to the elite print industry
will draw a very sophisticated image of me in front of many (I guess!).
Actually I am quite an untidy person when compared with the societal norms of playing role of a
girl. I realize the fact that spending, in a way is the only rescue to my present
condition. It can save me from looking the way I look, mismanaged. Spending on
myself will actually make me a whitey- tidy girl whom guys would like to date (again
I guess!). Yeah, 22 yet single that is me! Anyways that is not the issue. The issue is spending even 1/4<sup>th </sup>(or whatever part) of what we spend on
clothes, saloons, spas etc. can actually help someone in filling his stomach or
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Why I am writing this
article is because I myself feel abashed. What to choose, between the
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">I have been meeting a very beautiful and courageous lady
from past 5 months. She is 25 years old with three kids, an alcoholic husband
whom she left behind. Sadly this brought her back to her family who work hard
to make sure that she should not live peacefully. Why? Simple reason she is a
girl and now not just a liability but also a stain on the family name. She
lives with her younger brother just to fulfill the ‘Male Protection’ regulation
of our society. This brother treats her like a trash, beats her in front of
anyone at any point of time. Still she is struggling hard to feed and teach her
children well. But in the salary of just 4k she hardly manages to feed her
children properly. Witnessing all this first hand made me think on how we know
what is the meaning of poverty but seldom do we realize what it actually
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">I know that this sounds like an age old story and I am just being emotional. I’ll not deny this. But just because
millions among us share the same story and we cannot change everyone, should
this stop us from doing what we can do even for one? I don’t think so.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">I have decided to be a human and help her till the day I
can. Honestly, even I don’t earn a very handsome amount. Belong to the middle
segment of the lifestyle economics table. But the lesson which I have learnt in
these 5 months is very precious. ‘<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">In
order to bring change you don’t need a 5-6-7 figure salary but a heart which is
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Ishleen Kaurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16888260894315981239noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-289595798280882312.post-66633758402962921912012-05-10T05:19:00.001-07:002012-05-10T05:19:58.735-07:00The Missing Compassion<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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that. No I am not going to comment on the film in any way. I just want to
highlight one part of the film where the canteenwala teaches JJ about the
importance of having heartbreak or pain in life to be like Jim Morrisson or a
Rockstar?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Georgia","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">I know my first post on Thinking Action says that even I
tried this theory and it worked for me as well. But with time and experience
people do change and even I have. In fact I come across many people my age or
younger to me who think pain is the way. Create it and show it wearing pearls
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<span style="font-family: "Georgia","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Now the point is how with time have we changed so much that
now we don’t understand pain without feeling it? Where has our sensitivity gone?
Where have those days gone when pain used to be the binding factor and not the
hit and trial method to be someone big?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Georgia","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">In our day to day lives how we take people for granted and
never even think about what they want?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Georgia","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">How many men who claim that they love their wives actually
help them in the household chores? Yesterday I came across a couple who are
doctors by profession with no time at all for living life and are going to
Florida next month for a one month course. But still in the middle of all this
when husband reads newspaper and refreshes himself with some sports channel.
His wife cooks and cleans ‘their’ home. I don’t think people ever realize that
wives are also human beings and they also need some time off. For those who
think that every lady on this earth loves cooking and it acts like a stress
buster for them, let me clarify this IT’S A MYTH. Not all women wish the same.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Georgia","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Moreover, another point that I wish to highlight is it is
not a women’s duty to manage house but still she does everything out of love.
Now the question is what do the men who claim they love their wives
unconditionally do? Shouldn’t you be a part of everything that needs to keep a
house running? Or is it the comfortable norm of the society for many because of
which we have missed the word ‘compassion’ ???</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Georgia","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Moving on to some common yet uncommon issues like a person
who finishes his sentence in the jail and wants to starts his life a new is
simply denied of any opportunity. This ultimately leads to guilt and depression
that takes them back to the roads which they wanted to leave behind.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Georgia","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Again we need to think that it could have been me or any
relative of mine. There are several ways through which we can take
precautionary steps. But we are quite happy in our comfort zone with a large
number of options to replace him at least. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Georgia","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">I don’t understand exactly when we started playing the role
of a brainless breed. Maybe capitalism is the reason but how can a theory
become a way of life? How we regularly feed greed but not compassion, morals
and other better parts of our personality? </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Georgia","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Anyways I have not written this post because I wish you to
change but to see how have we commercialized ourselves this much that emotion
have become the next big thing on season sale.</span></div>
</div>Ishleen Kaurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16888260894315981239noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-289595798280882312.post-7650128706241861362012-03-08T11:13:00.000-08:002012-03-10T10:24:23.671-08:00Happy Beginning<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Yes, I know it’s been days that Valentine’s Day has
passed and I am late to share my views on it. But actually I was in the turmoil
of whether I should even write this or not as it should not be disappointing or
should not sound repetitive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Eventually I realized that this is not how writing
works. Writing is something much more dearly to me than anything else and yes,
we can discuss that some other time for sure. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">So it all began in my childhood when I heard those
magical stories that used to define love as an amazing feeling and most of us
used to fall for this. Due to this all of us grew up secretly but crazily
curious thinking about ‘that mystery woman or man’ for whom we take chances all
through those years of adolescence and after. In the mean while we go through all
those brutal break ups that teach us about life and people all together. However
for me all this process of dating and going out comes as an exciting idea of
learning and growing.</span></div>
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Anyhow in real it has been a different game for me.
I have seen so many bad, fraud, false marriages that mere existence of this
‘sacred institution’ is so baffling to me. I simply never understood what love
is coz wherever I saw people getting married and I could sense some conspiracy
that involves all other sort of reasons than love. </div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Now on the other hand I have been a die-hard
romantic, secretly reading mills and boon and weaving all those dreams of
living life in the arms of my partner. All this used to really frustrate me as
I would always fail to figure out what I want and who I am. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">And Valentine’s Day is one another day when my
frustration will reach peaks in the desire of a beloved and a part of me
fighting the same desire.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">But this Valentine ’s Day was different as it took
me to some really beautiful people who sketched their own love stories. One of
them is my sister and the other is my best friend. I could never really believe
that love exists and it does changes people in a more than positive way, but
they made me believe all this through them.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Both of them share some common traits like
stubbornness, egocentric and lack of expression. Now this does not mean
that they do not love people or they themselves are bad but I think we all have
some people like them around and many of you can relate to what am I
specifically referring to.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">My sister who never saw anyone in this world as a
living being (except herself) suddenly started feeling for her parents if not
for me. Sigh! But it’s okay. She suddenly had all those family values in her
which somehow I could never even imagine she knew of. And my best friend, miser
of all misers suddenly started spending on her phone lavishly so that she could
stay connected with her love 24/7. She is the same person who in a way
restricted my college life through her busy and a self restricted schedule, is
now all the time out with him. Gosh! All this is frustrating but nevertheless
the point to focus is on the fact how love unfolded them into a better person
and an open person.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">To refresh myself I always used to watch those
lovely romantic movies where man always treats his love of life as his life.
But I always used to end up with doubts in my head that does this really
happen? Is it really true? Do things
like these really happen? And one day I received a mail from my dear friend in
which she referred me a book ‘He’s just not that into you’. Man that book and
movie are both worth giving your time if you are like me :P Girl who is single
but confused about, what is what in love? I can say that I actually feel really
calm after reading and watching that movie and of course seeing those things
happening in front of me in the form of my sister and bestie falling in love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Therefore, all this and more this Valentine’s day
that happened gave me a wider and reliable view of what is love? </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">So we just have to wait not hunt for our mystery
person <3</span></div>
</div>Ishleen Kaurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16888260894315981239noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-289595798280882312.post-36095040994430101432012-01-29T09:24:00.000-08:002012-01-29T09:37:57.355-08:00Yahi Soch to Badlni hai… Really?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-size: small; line-height: 115%;">By now we all are well
aware of the Stayfree ad campaign that says ‘yahi soch to badalni hai’. The
campaign through its varied theme ads is not only highlighting women
empowerment but also a social, economic and cultural change.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small; line-height: 115%;">But this also made me
think about how periods is one topic that we rarely share with males present in
our life. Ofcourse, considering the scenario I spare the role of a father and a
brother but I am still unclear why my sub-conscious mind is making me do so. ‘Me’
using the word ‘sub-conscious’ for barrier is another example of how girls in
our society are conditioned to grow up. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small; line-height: 115%;">As a child I could
not ask my mother why I should keep periods as a secret part of my life. Even
when I am in severe pain I should not reveal the reason behind to my brother or
father even if they are the only ones who are available for <b><i>help</i></b>.
Why?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small; line-height: 115%;">‘Help’ this takes me back me to the days when
my mother was going through her menopause. During the initial stages of this
process my mother was in dire need of my father’s support emotionally, mentally
and physically. But unfortunately he was not there. Why? May be because he
never took it as a big problem or even a problem at the first place. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small; line-height: 115%;">Reason behind this is
simple when women will never make males realize how this is not a problem but a
natural process. How are we going to see the change?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small; line-height: 115%;">As a child when I had
to keep this as a secret it gave me a sense of shame and shame is often associated
with dirtiness or badness, which is simply not the case. How in the world a
natural process that occurs in the body of half the human population can be bad
or dirty?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small; line-height: 115%;">Interestingly when I
asked my mother about why we should not talk about this in front of father,
brother or boyfriends few days ago. My mother replied, ‘I don’t know sweety,
it’s the way we were taught’.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small; line-height: 115%;">She realized it after
living 30years with the process where her secret life resulted in her
loneliness at the time when she needed her partner the most.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small; line-height: 115%;">This brings me to the
grave concern of how we are deliberately creating a society where we are adding
to our sufferings and axing our support system. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small; line-height: 115%;">Besides this how men
grow shamelessly insensitive towards females just because they can connect
blood loss physical pains but not emotional imbalances that we suffer. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small; line-height: 115%;">Now the question is
are we doing our bit when even media is fulfilling its responsibility of
creating change? Are we teaching our daughters, younger sisters or friends to
talk and share? </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small; line-height: 115%;">May be calling for a
bigger change begins by sharing the truth about your monthly pains. So, all the
Lovely Ladies out there no need to hesitate ‘Its Natural, Not A Sin’.</span></div>
</div>Ishleen Kaurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16888260894315981239noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-289595798280882312.post-88634417165739350202012-01-05T08:03:00.000-08:002012-01-05T08:04:30.025-08:00Untitled Society of Children<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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friend of mine and I were having a chat. This chat was nothing extra-ordinary
but it left both of us thinking for days together. It was about our dreams,
dreams that are free from professional or personal burden and are just dreams,
our dreams.<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Interestingly we
shared same dream, we wanted to work for '<b>child sexual abuse</b>', neither the
victim nor cases but simply child sexual abuse. As among us he is the curious
one, he immediately started the reserach work and came out with names of a few
organisations that were dealing with the problem. But sadly he could came
across organisations that welcomed only women or girls, victims or volunteers.
It was shocking that how even organisations that deal with the grave issue are
not even open to the idea that when its about children, boys are equally
vulnerable. </span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Statistics say that
1 out of every 3 girls has seen some kind of abuse and 1 out of every 5 boys
faces abuse before he crosses 18. Now, like you even I don't believe on these
figures, but just because you don't rely on numbers, it does not mean that the
problem does not exist. For those who don't believe it, study Congo currently
crowned as rape capital of the world. You will realise how even men are being
raped there. Yes, men who are tall, young and we believe are there to protect
women are also going through the same pain.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">I still remember
Oprah Winfrey's show where once she invited males who have seen abuse as a
child. No matter from whom but they have. I was stunned and felt bad at the
same time that situation is equally bad even today with no knowledge, no help.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">The worst thing
that I came across in my study so far was reaction of our surroundings. How it
differs from women to men. Women still receive compassion, support and sympathy
in some or the other form but males, what about them? Specially in patriarchal
society like ours where masculinity has a definite definition. It doesn't
allows males to play the victim but certainly he has all the right to play the
devil.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Now the point is
how to fulfill our dream? How to learn and help because dealing with the
problem is a bigger task than what we all can even imagine. </span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">I thought about
this a lot had word with many (people from different age groups and lifestyles)
and came to conclusion that we just cannot kill this. But we can reduce the
number of children whose childhood gets raped before even they realise what the
word 'rape' stands for.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">The only way we can
come over this is by educating our children as soon as possible. I know
educating is the problem. It involves delicate questions like what is the right
time, at what age, how should we do it so that there are negative effects on
the child's brain and many more.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">But then I say that
was what exactly my friend and I wanted to learn, teach and help ourselves
with.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">At the end I would
like to share a very well written article that I feel is a must read for
whosoever is reading mine.</span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><a href="http://thecurrentconscience.com/blog/2011/11/14/now-give-your-uncle-a-kiss/"><span style="color: blue;">http://thecurrentconscience.com/blog/2011/11/14/now-give-your-uncle-a-kiss/</span></a></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">* I am not
interested in explaining how a child feels after the incident. How he/ she
becomes a victim for life. But if you really want to understand just have a
look around because numbers not necessarily are always wrong.</span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">*To the victims who
are reading, its good if you come out and do what you think is best to free
yourself. As I don't practically believe in theory of forgiveness so I would
have done whatever I thought would have been best for me. But make sure that
whatever you do should pave a way for others to learn, for good... coz God has chosen you for spreading goodness around. </span></div>
</div>Ishleen Kaurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16888260894315981239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-289595798280882312.post-71833572425767057272011-11-28T10:38:00.000-08:002011-11-30T05:39:04.934-08:00Is it Me or You?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I never understand why the world is the way it is? I mean why men have certain role to play and women the other certain. Even if according to stories Eve was the one who ate the apple and was punished for the same. Why women are physically weak and they are made to pay for it in every possible manner? When I look back, am reminded of some incidences with some particular people am always like 'Really am I living in the 21st century?'<div style="font-family: arial; font-size: small; text-align: -webkit-auto;">
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For this I would like to share some instances. Instances because I don't have any solution or opinion because I believe am a part of both 'the solution and the opinion'.</div>
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So, to begin with am a part of a family where father thinks a woman is born for a man and has no use in this world besides giving birth to children. Whereas my mother thinks a woman has all the right to be herself on her own always. And then there is this young daughter who is a rebellion when it comes to her respect and status in the society. </div>
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Thinking of my father definitely disappoints me and I believe his change in attitude could have made our lives better. </div>
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Then I had this dear friend whom I left because of his thoughts about women. I would like to share this particular conversation that confirmed his deletion from my book of life. We were just talking about our plan for life ahead. He like most of the men said, ' Since I am already in a good job and will see promotion would like to marry a beautiful girl and get settled.' And I was like yeah man you mean pretty, fair and dumb girl who should only listen to you and should not utter a word all through her life. Then came my turn and I said, I would like to establish myself and then will enjoy my life and sleep with whom so ever I like but he just blurted 'what you'll be a slut'? and I was like Helloooo who are you to tag me.... </div>
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So, this instance told me even those guys who belong to well-educated families are unable to digest a woman of her own choices. It is also very disappointing because when you look around and find so many well-mannered men around you can never be certain about what they will teach their children and how will they keep their wives.</div>
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With this I am reminded of a particular article that my friend shared with me recently. I must say that it was a thought provoking piece by a blogger. This made me realize how men behave even in love towards their ladies which instead of making them feel stronger makes them feel inferior.</div>
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<a href="http://allamericanindiangirl.wordpress.com/2011/09/24/gaslighting-yashar-alis-brilliant-piece-on-the-sneakiest-ways-the-society-stifles-its-women/">http://allamericanindiangirl.wordpress.com/2011/09/24/gaslighting-yashar-alis-brilliant-piece-on-the-sneakiest-ways-the-society-stifles-its-women/</a></div>
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This also reminds of some stances that I read in a book recently. Author of the book rightly remarks that in various countries why women face problems is because their are judged on the basis of their virginity and then to how many sons she gives to the family. The problem is in many parts of our society even today people don't think of women more than a machine for giving birth. And her virginity is such a big issue of honour for men that they choose women, the easy victim. Probably that's why Congo has become the rape capital of the world. Not only this but just to keep male hunger satisfied nobody stops lower class girls being forced into prostitution.</div>
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Also, the author gave another interesting yet worth noticing fact which said in the aggressive countries like America, Afghanistan and many more that have male surplus population increase in even 0.01% of male population can lead to up to 4% increase in conflict.</div>
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Recently, I attended a workshop on 'Gender and Sexuality' where even though I went with some different agendas on my mind but fortunately ended up learning much more. I learnt about behaviours that since birth of the girl child make her feel inferior. Nobody answers us in time about periods, masturbation, sex and nobody gives us logic behind why a guy roaming only in bermudas is fine but not a girl. </div>
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I hope above instances gave you some insight of how mena nd this society hampers our growth.</div>
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According to me fortunately or unfortunately solution lies in two things:</div>
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*Women should respect women (no matter what)</div>
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I reached this conclusion after a lot of thinking and discussions. But to give a reason what I have is I have often seen well- qualified women who give those same remarks many times 'look at her, what is she wearing, it looks so vulgar' or a girl who dates two-three guys is characterless... why do we have to comment..why?</div>
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*I believe we have the power to teach men around us that we deserve our share of respect. So, we can work on this like I am doing with my dad.</div>
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But yes I do not deny the fact that this time our change requires you dear men <3 to change.</div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red;">*This Blog is part of the Men Say No Blogathon, encouraging men to take up action against the violence faced by women. More entries to the Blogathon can be read at<a href="http://www.mustbol.in/blogathon">www.mustbol.in/blogathon</a>. Join further conversation on facebook.com/delhiyouth & twitter.com/mustbol</span><br />
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</div>Ishleen Kaurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16888260894315981239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-289595798280882312.post-39264223315307586102011-07-19T01:04:00.000-07:002011-07-19T01:04:34.141-07:00A Silent PromiseEyes,<br />
Eyes was the road<br />
from where our<br />
story began.<br />
From the very<br />
moment I saw you<br />
my eyes found no other way<br />
to go but yours.<br />
The day when I<br />
introduced myself to you<br />
Even you didn't realise<br />
that something<br />
happened to you.<br />
At first you fended off<br />
from looking at me.<br />
But then you<br />
realised... its of no use<br />
anymore.<br />
Like mine even your<br />
heart recognised,<br />
Something beautiful was<br />
already living between us.<br />
And the time was<br />
not right so..<br />
mutually through our eyes<br />
we left words<br />
aside.<br />
Moving slowly<br />
and<br />
our silence decides<br />
though this road has<br />
long diversions<br />
but it doesn't ends<br />
alone.Ishleen Kaurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16888260894315981239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-289595798280882312.post-42702691568628535362011-07-15T11:17:00.000-07:002011-07-17T05:56:32.807-07:00Writing ... Why and How .. ???I always wanted to be a writer. Writers, they have always been a cause of fascination in my life. I always had this amazing feeling by their vision. Words allure me by the magic they create on readers. I wanted this wand and this magic broomstick to ride me all over the sky. <br />
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But finally, I started writing two years ago to be precise on 4 May 2009 at around 4:00p.m. Well, I remember it that accurately because that was the day when my first 'more then just friendship relation' saw its end. It was just the type I asked for. A faceless, Voiceless and future less relation and still we had our moments. The end of this relation fulfilled my wish of being a writer. As through what I had read and observed since then I believed that to be a writer one should go through immense pain so, that one can actually understand complexities of life because of which writing will come out straight from the heart .. I know this may sound silly to many ..:P:P:P<br />
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But the end of this relation and beginning of fulfillment of my desire presented in front of me a question on life. Do we actually need someone to be with in our life? After this I felt like we actually don't need anyone in our lives, what we need is just an ear and a heart which should listen to us, support us, motivate us, show us what love is and what life is. But since the end of that relation gave me a medium of expression if not for life but for now I feel I am complete through my pages, pen, pencils and erasers who play the role of ear, heart, supporter, motivator and lover <3<3<3<br />
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Now after completing two years of this journey, dream turned into reality. I am at this juncture where I am not in search of myself but in the process of building myself. I wish to make this as a very honest account of my 'Story of Creation'. So, I welcome everyone who visits 'Thinking Action'. Hope in the space between Thinking and Action we'll be able to find a better part of ourselves.<br />
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</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">Welcome!!!! </span></div>Ishleen Kaurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16888260894315981239noreply@blogger.com0India20.593684 78.9628800000000416.071455499999999 64.319952500000042 35.1159125 93.60580750000004